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My borsvoed journey

As iemand anders terug kyk op my lewe sou hulle seker se dat borsvoed die obvious keuse vir my was.  My ma is al amper 30 jaar n La Leche League leidster, en het al vier haar dogters geborsvoed tot ons self gespeen het. Ek het gedrink tot ek amper vyf was since na my nog n sussie gekom het met wie ek my lekker melkies moes deel.  Ons het groot geword tussen borsvoed mammas en daar was niks so cool soos om saam te gaan na n LLL meeting die eerste Woensdag van elke maand nie.

In 2010 op die ouderdom van 20 het ek as enkel mamma geboorte gegee aan n pragtige baba dogtertjie Cara-Mia.  En since my ma vir my n Womanly art of breast feeding as persent gegee het by my baby shower, het dinge sommer dadelik baie goed gegaan.  Daar was moeilike dae en rowwe dae.  Huilende en laggende dae. Maar ek het my borsvoed journey baie geniet.  Mense vra so baie hoekom ek borsvoed en hoekom ek so lank aan gehou het.  Aan die begin was my antwoord altyd, omdat dit malkik was, en ek te lui is om bottles te maak.  Toe my Snoekie 22 maande oud was het mamma besluit ons het nou genoeg gehad. Gelukkig het  Cara-Mia saam gestem en in vrede gespeen.

Ek is in 2012 met n wonderlike man getroud en dit was nie lank nie (Mei 2013) toe ons uitvind ons tweede bondeltjie is oppad.  Mamma het vir papa saamgesleep na voor geboorte klasse. Daar het pappa ook van al borsvoed se voordele geleer.  In November is ons pragtige seun Ciane sommer by die huis en in pappa se hande gebore.  Net soos met die eerste het dit sommer van dag een af goed gegaan.

Mens leer so baie by LLL. Ek het meer as eenkeer in n vergadering gehoor dat as mens eksklusief borsvoed, sonder dummy, bottles en vaste kos, mens se kanse op swangerskap baie skaars is.  So het ek nie veel daaroor geworry nie en is ek vandag n 1% statestiek.

Ciane is nou 5 maande oud en ons is weer swanger.  Ons vermoed dat ek nou so 6 of 7 wekies is.  Op die oomblik gaan voiding maar bietjie rof.  My arme tieties is aan die brand.  Maar ek is determined om deur te druk en ook binne kort te tandem nurse.

Intussen het my opinie oor borsvoed ook heelwat verander.  Ja dit bly maklik. Maar ek doen dit omdat dit natuurlik is.  Nie normal nie, want wat vir my normal is is nie noodwendig vir jou nie, maar plain and simple omdat dit natuurlik is.  Ek het my babas gedra, ekt geboorte gegee en nou borsvoed ek. Mense kan maar kyk en praat en wonder. I wouldn’t change it for anything.  My borsvoed storie sover is awesome en ek hoop dat ek ander kan inspirer.  Mens hoor aaklige stories daar buite en mense kan maar maklik borsvoed sleg praat.  But each to his own.  Solank jy jou besluite om jou hart maak en nie om ander se opinies nie.

Ongelukkig het my en Ciane se borsvoed journey op 9 maande tot ‘n einde gekom. Tussen die stress, min melk en groot maag het dinge net te veel geraak.

Ons het n pragtige dogtertjie Carmin Callisa in die wereld verwelkom op 19 December 2013, borsvoed het soos altyd natuurlik gekom.  Vandag is sy al 11 maande oud en glo dit of nie ons verwag nog n bondeltjie in Mei 2015.  Die keer sal ek  trots wees as ek en Carmin dit tot n jaar maak, enige iets na dit is n bonus.




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