Being a stepmom
If you think being a mom is hard, wait till you have to be a
stepmom. Before I got married I didn’t
for one second think it would be a challenge but boy it is.
I am very blessed that I am stepmom to an amazing little
girl, she is raised with amazing manners and she is always so helpful.
From day one I told her to call me Carina, she tried really
hard but with her good manners I always ended up being Tannie Carina, not a fan
of the Tannie word, but coming from her I don’t mind it.
The hard part comes in to always be fair towards all the
children although your heart sometimes wants to choose sides. It is also hard when the rules, morals and
expectation are diffirent in the two homes.
Dinnique loves her mother very much, I could never replace
her. She always tells me how beautiful
her mom is and I find it so cute.
Obviously her mom speaks very badly of me (which is
understandable) , I try to be the better person and only speak good of her mom
and her new man. I encourage her to make
her cards and tell her special things, most days my efforts are probably a waste
of time but maybe one day it will be worth it.
We have a very good bond, and friendship bond, she knows she
can always come to me and talk to me about things, I try to listen and be
supportive even though she comes from a way different world.
To me it has nothing to do with her mom or dad, they can
fight and argue all they want, to me its about a little girl, trying to find
her place in two homes. Here she is the eldest of five, and there the only child. I think it is
really hard on her sometimes, her parents don’t always realize how their words
affect her.
I pray for this special girl every day, she is a light in
many peoples lives
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