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Contraceptives … My opinion





So most of you know that I had Cara-Mia before I was married. The only contraceptive I used then was condoms. And if there wasn’t one handy well …. I did fall pregnant.

When me and Heine got married we didn’t even discuss contraceptives as we knew we wanted to start a family immediately.  After Ciane’s birth we started discussing a few things but I naively thought that if I breast feed exclusively we only have to start worrying when he is about six months.

Well before then I fell pregnant again.  Although I don’t regret having another baby the timing was a bit soon.  13 months difference is very small, they could be twins for that matter.

Any case this time I want to be more prepared. As soon as baby is out there has to be a plan.

In my ideal dream world we would follow natural family planning. Where I check when I ovulate and then don’t have sex on those days.  But being a busy stay at home mom I don’t even know my Monday from my Friday.  I never know what the date is.  I can’t even commit to saying I’ll check my temperature every day cause I’ll most probably forget.
The other problem with that is being a busy mom makes me pretty exhausted so when I do have the energy for sex I don’t want to check the calendar. 

Just before I got married I was on the pill for a month.  I bled that entire month. And yes I forgot to drink it quite a few times.  It also made me super moody.
All that aside, filling my body with so much extra hormones just doesn’t seem right.  You hear and read so many stories.  And then when you think about it what the difference between the pill and drugs are, it both effects your body negatively.

Then there is the Mirena and IUD’s … I might consider it but it is still all the extra hormones that I don’t want.  And I know there are people who get pregnant on all the contraceptives. But with this I personally know a few people who fell pregnant.

So what do I do, take everything out permanently? What if in 5 years I want another baby and then regret my decision. 

So I am considering getting my tubes tied.  Spoke to a few woman and they say it’s the most painful operation ever for a woman, and you take some time to heal.  But pain for the sake of my sanity doesn’t sound so bad.

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