Why woman get depressed

They say it takes a village to raise a child ...

But why?

I am mom enough aren't I? I can multitask like a boss and my kids have survived till now.

Yes we learn from each other and ask advise but I am more than capable.

But what if they said that it takes a village to make a mom ...

Back in the day woman were part of tribes and villages. They would gather each morning with their children and go about their daily tasks. In between they would chat, laugh, cry. every woman was still responsible for their own child and her own duties but everything they did they did together.

As a child I loved the idea of gypsies. Every one traveling together, laughing next to the fire. Washing clothes in the river. Off course later I would realize that its very frowned upon and most of them are criminals ...

Today mothers are expected to spend as much time as possible with our kids. so we are either stay at home moms, work from home moms or working moms trying to stretch their maternity leave as long as possible. And though we all love our children to death it is not natural for a woman to exclude herself from society and just sit at home with baby.

Those first few days after birth that alone time is amazing. You get to rest and bond with baby.Then those days turn into weeks. Baby sleeps most of the time so you read a book or binge watch series.
You even start to enjoy soapies and infomercials.

Moms and tots classes were not created for the kids. LLL isnt based on baby to baby support. No it so that mom can put on a bra, brush her hair and get out of the house.

It is ok to get bored and frustrated just sitting at home with your baby ... it does not mean you love them any less.

Please find yourself a hobby, go have coffee with your friends, join a support group, host the book club do whatever to get out of the house.

Friends is a good cure for depression and loneliness

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